I Am Good Enough, And So Are You

This heading is so important, I need to repeat it. I am good enough. And you are good enough too.

And anyone in your life who undermines that belief is someone you need to put space between.

Listen: if you seriously want to be a writer, or are pursuing that dream right now, you will face adversity enough. Its a profession/vocation which simultaneously requires the sensitivity to detect a fly’s wing quiver and the reinforced hide of a rhinoceros to deal with all the rejection and the long lead-in time.

The novel for which I signed my publication agreement in September took three years of hard work. I don’t know how it is for others, but I know that for me it took tremendous willpower. You will need, excuse the crudity, balls of iron and turbo-powered ovaries to shut everything else out and keep going. What you don’t need is people attacking you and undermining you.

Some people are wired never to be satisfied. If you get one thing right, they will inevitably find something else to criticise. Anyone remember Miss Scatcherd out of Jane Eyre? “Such is the imperfect nature of man! Such spots are there on the disc of the clearest planet; and eyes like Miss Scatcherd’s can only see those minute defects, and are blind to the full brightness of the orb.” This was after she beat the living daylights out of Helen Burns for being a SLATTERN. Or there’s the example of the groom in an Emily Yoffe agony column whose bride objected to his female friend being a bridesmaid because she wore thick glasses andย ย “glasses are an inappropriate accessory for women’s formalwear, and the bridal magazines have convinced her that there can be no exceptions to the no-glasses rule.” Yes, that actually happened.

If someone is of a critical bent, there is no point of accomplishment you can achieve that will satisfy their standards – because those “standards” are arbitrary and rigged against you. There will always be slatternliness and glasses. There will always be people who know nothing of the industry, your due diligence and your craft popping up to tell you that you’ve done something wrong. Even Eleanor Catton gets people making remarks about her damn hair colour. There’s just no pleasing people.

Do your homework, focus yourself and be sensible. But you will learn to recognise the naysayers, the people who add nothing but poison. Don’t try to please them. You don’t need to. You are good enough.


And get writing ๐Ÿ™‚

11 thoughts on “I Am Good Enough, And So Are You

    1. Thank you Sinead. One would think the point of “good enough” would finally get reached – but sometimes it never does, alas. I’m glad it resonated and helped!

      1. One of my personal mantras is ‘I am enough.’ I have to repeat it to myself quite a lot, but it always works! ๐Ÿ™‚ As long as you are at peace with yourself, what does anything else matter? You’re not here to hit a standard – you’re here to live your life.

        P.S. You are more than good enough, by the way. ๐Ÿ™‚

  1. I think it is because success if reached that people start with the negative comments. Very few openly criticise the pathetic. It’s the truly talented folk people snipe at.

  2. It’s funny how we’re always measuring ourselves. We all start off as babies, and who looks at a baby and says, ‘That one’s no good’? Yet as we grow older we measure so much, and the people who think least of themselves often say the worst about others, while the people who think the most of themselves don’t say anything about others, and then there are all the people in the middle, holding hands and hoping that we’re all good enough, and that when we ‘get there’, we can remain friends. Perhaps we’re just all spurring ourselves on, on a journey of self-improvement. I hope someone’s steering.

    1. That’s a beautiful comment, Tracy. My only disagreement with you is that I hope someone isn’t steering, especially in this country, because I would profoundly distrust their motives! (I have reached a position of deep mistrust and alienation from my country on my spiritual level, while being happy with the immediate circumstances of my life.)

  3. I think that you and ‘White Feathers’ have shown that you are not good enough, Susan but better than most! So there! ๐Ÿ™‚ Loved this post so thank you.

    1. Thank you, Carolann ๐Ÿ™‚ I am glad you liked the post and I hope that in convincing myself I will convince all the other great authors out there!

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